Friday, July 24, 2009

Why Sisters in Christ?




Dear all:

I just want to brag about my dear sisters in Christ!

Harold and I joined our church a little over a year ago. God really did an incredible thing for us. When I look back as to how we arrived here I know it was Him that pushed us toward this next phase in our lives.

I've come to realize and accept in a better way that we live our lives in seasons. Change has always been a struggle for me in the past. But we grow with change. We meet new people with change. We try new things with change. We try new restaurants with change. We see things different with change.

I have never been one to have many friends, especially women. I didn't have time for it I told myself. It was too much work. I preferred the friendship of my husband mostly and once in a while allowed myself to have one close friend maybe two. I'm probably not alone in the fact that we've at some point all have been betrayed by a friend, or just simply hurt by one.

But God....I find myself surrounded by amazing women these days. I hold them in such high esteem and truly have come to love each one of them. Some I know very closely...like Jeanette, Nelda, Kimberly, Heidi, Sherry, Linda, Myndi, Pam... and of course Pastor Renee just to name a few and so many others and I find them to be such an awesome example of the phrase we so often use "Women of God". They are truly a gift to the body of Christ and our Church. Strong, Capable, all professional and none of which get their feelings hurt easily but always give each other the benefit of the doubt. This is rare in our breed. Ladies, I salute you!
I also have two other friends that have been constant in my life...Michelle and Istmenia. You walked with me through difficult times and have stuck around when I needed you most.
Thank you for being my friends! I look forward to working with each of you more and more as we push forward in our women's ministry!

God knew exactly what I needed and he gently pushed me towards you all.




Ruth


Thursday, July 23, 2009

Why Knees again?

Hello Ladies:

For those of you that doubted me.....I want you all to please read this article I found this morning. See - I was right.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1201524/No-longer-bees-knees-Should-woman-legs-40.html


Talk to you later, running out to buy more long skirts!!

Ruth

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Why do we clutter?


I found a great article that I am going to share with all you! There is always a reason as to the things we do or do not do. Now, if you come over to my house you will always see it clean and well organized! I hate clutter.....I've always taken enormous pride in my organized home. Years ago when the kids were small and I was home with them we had some neighbors that would ask us to water their plants while they were out of town. The first time I walked into their home I was shocked. There was at least 10 newspapers on their dining room table, mail, magazines, etc and you could not see the table top. Their staircase had a pair of shoes on each step his/her's. About at least 20 pairs of different styles going up the stairs. Their kitchen had dishes piled up high in their sink...and there were clothes everywhere in their living room just strewn all over the floor! I walked out and did not even water the plants. They were dying anyway and I figured that was best under the circumstances..... see the captioned picture? That is what they needed!

I do however have a problem concerning my closet! I hate getting rid of my old clothes. I converted a bedroom into my personal closet. I have so much clothing and shoes....and I plan in my head all the time as to when I will tackle this project. Its been a few years with these back and forth thoughts that enter my head in the wee hours of the night...hence this article......
which I thought had some interesting points!

The Clutter Within: What's Your Clutter Personality?
Posted April 27, 2008 by Cynthia Townley Ewer
It's silent. It's sneaky. It creeps about in corners: clutter. When the state of the house aggravates you to your last nerve, it's tempting to launch an all-out battle in the war against clutter.
First, though, know your enemy! There are as many reasons for household clutter as there are clutterers. As Pogo says, "We have seen the enemy, and he is us!"
Take aim on your household's clutter problem by going to the root of the problem: your own thinking.

What's your clutter personality ... and which of these internal voices strikes a chord?

The Hoarder: "This might come in hand someday!"
Hoarding is rooted in insecurity, financial or otherwise. Deep down, Hoarders fear that they'll never have the resources they need if they let go of any possession, no matter how worn, useless or superfluous.
If cabinets and closets are crammed with egg cartons, cracked margarine containers, and old magazines, there's likely Hoarding behavior underlying the clutter.
Hoarders need to be remind themselves that resources will always be available. Where can a Hoarder look outside the home for a substitute Hoard?
Reassure yourself! Stuff will be with us always. Find magazines indexed at the library, kitchenware marked down at yard sales, and every small appliance known to man can be found (cheap!)at the thrift store. Think of these off-site treasure troves as attenuated household storage areas. Dare to dump it!

The Deferrer: "I'll think about that tomorrow!"
Those of the deferral mindset are guilty of the great set-aside. Bills, notices, old newspapers, items that need cleaning or repair, and household projects are all set aside to be dealt with another day. The Deferrer will leave dinner dishes in the sink, wet laundry in the washer, and dropped fruit underneath the backyard apple tree.
Deferrers need to be reminded that tomorrow has no more time or energy than today--and that deferring decisions drags down each new day with yesterday's unfinished business.
Since this behavior is grounded in procrastination, apply the best remedy: action. For Deferrers, simply making a start creates the momentum needed to finish the job. Remember, it's easier to keep a rolling stone in motion, than it is to pick it up and start it rolling the first time!

The Rebel: "I don't wanna and you can't make me!"
Somehow, it's all Mom's fault. Rebels were forced to pick up after themselves as children; as adults, they're still expressing the mute and stubborn determination of a four-year-old who refuses to pick up his toys.
Rebel clutter can be anything, but often centers on household activities. No, the Rebel won't put his or her clothes in the hamper, cereal bowl in the dishwasher, or car in the garage--even when the clothing gets wrinkled, the cereal bowl hardens into yellow goop, and the car gets damaged by roadside traffic.
Rebels need to remind themselves that the war is over. They don't live with Mom anymore--and their own family deserves an adult on the job, not a sulky child.
Tell that inner Rebel, "It's okay--I'm the parent now, and I want a house that's nice to live in. By switching places with the old authority figure, the Rebel can find a way out of "I don't wanna!"

The Perfectionist: "Next week, I'll organize everything--perfectly!"
Perfectionists are wonderful people, but they live in an all-or-nothing world. They do wonderful things--when they do them!
Perfectionism forms an inner barrier to cutting clutter because the Perfectionist can't abide doing a less-than-perfect job. Without the time to give 110% to the project, the Perfectionist Clutterer prefers to let matters--and the piles of stuff--slide.
For example, plastic food containers may be overflowing their cabinet, but the Perfectionist Clutterer won't scrabble them to rights until he or she can purchase the perfect shelf paper, lid holder organizer, and color-coded labels. As a result, the massed and crowded containers stay put, falling down onto the feet of anyone hapless enough to open the cupboard door
Perfectionist Clutterers need to remind themselves of the 20-80 rule: 20% of every job takes care of 80% of the problem, while fixing the remaining 20% will gobble 80% of the job. By giving themselves permission to do only 20%, Perfectionist Clutterers get off the dime and get going.
It is perfectly fine to tell the inner Perfectionist, "Today, I'll do the important 20% of that job: sorting, stacking and organizing those food containers. Later, I'll do the other 80%, buying organizers and putting down shelf paper. If later never comes? Well, you've outwitted your inner Perfectionist Clutterer. Congratulations!

The Sentimentalist: "Oh, the little darling!"
Sentimentalists never met a memento they didn't like--or keep. Children's clothing and school papers, faded greeting cards, souvenirs from long-ago trips and jumbled keepsakes crowd the environment of the Sentimental Clutterer.
Problem is, there's so much to remember that the truly endearing items get lost in a flood. Who can find the first grade report card in an attic full of boxes of paper?
The Sentimental Clutterer needs reduce the mass of mementos to a more portable state, changing mindset from an indiscriminate "Awwww!" to a more selective stance.
For example, a Sentimental Clutterer can corral each child's school papers into a single box by selecting one best drawing, theme or project each month.
Other ideas for reining in rampant Sentimental Clutter include scrapbooking the very best photos and papers, or photographing surplus sentimental clutter before letting it go. Sort it out, choose the best, keep the memories and dump the rest!
Which are you? Hmm!

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Why Cuddle?


I have another pet-peeve! Why is it that most couples don't show their affection towards each other? I DON'T KNOW! ugh!

The definition of Cuddling is: Prolonged hugging in a cozy, comfortable position.

A hug is a form of physical intimacy that usually involves closing or holding the arms around another person or group of persons. The hug is one of the most common human signs of love and affection, along with kissing. Sometimes, hugs are a romantic exchange. They are also a sign of support and comfort. Hugs have been proven to have health benefits. One study has shown that hugs increase levels of oxytocin and reduce blood pressure. Many species of animals engage in similar exchanges of warmth....look at the captioned picture above....how precious that the King of the jungle puts his paw on his love to let her know he is there to love and protect her. I love it!

So, now that we've been educated in this measure....lets all do more hugging.

Now, back to the couples. I'd like to see more affection with my peers. I'm talking about couples that have been married 10 years or more. Somewhere along the way when I look around and I do look around all the time... in restaurants, movies, church, the mall..etc. couples have lost "that loving feeling" there is very little communication going around and thus very little warmth and touchiness between couples.

In some couples, there is an awkwardness... why? I'm glad you asked! Because somewhere along the way you've disconnected with each other. You've allowed, children, work, careers, meetings, finances, people, selfishness, busyness etc. get inbetween you.

What is the solution? Thank you for inquiring! CUDDLE! Watch a movie together in your living room and cuddle. Let your kids see you cuddle...that will end the awkwardness and then you can move on to hugging...and even hold hands as you walk from the parking lot to the restaurant. When you are alone with each other talk about when you first met...re-live your great memories.

I've heard all kinds of excuses in the past from people that say..."I'm a private person" or "I was never hugged as a child" or "I don't like to show affection in public" or "it is not part of my culture" yada, yada, yada.... my word to you is "Bull". There is no excuse!

We are a family that hugs! But, growing up I was never hugged much as a child just because we were such a large family and my dear parents were so busy working in the ministry. They were so worn out with life that hugs were sparse. Harold and I have always been affectionate...there have been times along the way of our 29 years of marriage when we did not want to hug...but we did it anyway. We forced ourselves to re-connect during some difficult times and thus we've lasted this long. But I can safely say, we work at our relationship daily. We hug all the time, we cuddle all the time! It keeps us close!

Is your spouse really your best friend? Then show it!