Why Cuddle?

I have another pet-peeve! Why is it that most couples don't show their affection towards each other? I DON'T KNOW! ugh!

The definition of Cuddling is: Prolonged hugging in a cozy, comfortable position.

A hug is a form of physical intimacy that usually involves closing or holding the arms around another person or group of persons. The hug is one of the most common human signs of love and affection, along with kissing. Sometimes, hugs are a romantic exchange. They are also a sign of support and comfort. Hugs have been proven to have health benefits. One study has shown that hugs increase levels of oxytocin and reduce blood pressure. Many species of animals engage in similar exchanges of warmth....look at the captioned picture above....how precious that the King of the jungle puts his paw on his love to let her know he is there to love and protect her. I love it!

So, now that we've been educated in this measure....lets all do more hugging.

Now, back to the couples. I'd like to see more affection with my peers. I'm talking about couples that have been married 10 years or more. Somewhere along the way when I look around and I do look around all the time... in restaurants, movies, church, the mall..etc. couples have lost "that loving feeling" there is very little communication going around and thus very little warmth and touchiness between couples.

In some couples, there is an awkwardness... why? I'm glad you asked! Because somewhere along the way you've disconnected with each other. You've allowed, children, work, careers, meetings, finances, people, selfishness, busyness etc. get inbetween you.

What is the solution? Thank you for inquiring! CUDDLE! Watch a movie together in your living room and cuddle. Let your kids see you cuddle...that will end the awkwardness and then you can move on to hugging...and even hold hands as you walk from the parking lot to the restaurant. When you are alone with each other talk about when you first met...re-live your great memories.

I've heard all kinds of excuses in the past from people that say..."I'm a private person" or "I was never hugged as a child" or "I don't like to show affection in public" or "it is not part of my culture" yada, yada, yada.... my word to you is "Bull". There is no excuse!

We are a family that hugs! But, growing up I was never hugged much as a child just because we were such a large family and my dear parents were so busy working in the ministry. They were so worn out with life that hugs were sparse. Harold and I have always been affectionate...there have been times along the way of our 29 years of marriage when we did not want to hug...but we did it anyway. We forced ourselves to re-connect during some difficult times and thus we've lasted this long. But I can safely say, we work at our relationship daily. We hug all the time, we cuddle all the time! It keeps us close!

Is your spouse really your best friend? Then show it!